Mommies make mistakes...

Some day, I hope your mommy learns a valuable lesson.... don't try to get what you want by buying it. You can't always trust someone who says they'll pay you for something after you've already started putting money down for it, because they might take advantage of you. At least they do to your mom. And don't be so in a hurry to leave a situation you are in, by jumping into someone else's situation.

Also,...three things you don't pay for.
1. Your own wedding dress, no matter even if you think it's the one you've always dreamed of.... (of course, you, Malakai, won't be buying your wedding dress. lol... at least I hope not).
2. You don't buy your own engagement ring, by making payments on it and thinking your fiancee will pay you back!) If you want to marry a girl, work at the relationship and earn her. Pay for the ring, so it means something. Let her give you nothing but love and respect. And you, likewise.
3. Don't let anyone put your name on a cell phone plan, because you will be stuck paying the cancellation fees (of $200) when you can't afford it or they leave you....

I wish your mom would learn some things the easy way, not the hard way. If I could give her advise that she'd take, it would be to let life happen to her for a while. Don't go making things happen. It's the butterfly thing... If the butterfly lands on your shoulder, he's meant to touch you. If he doesn't, no amount of chasing him will make him land.

Just let it go and breathe for a while.

Actually, she should just spend some good quality "Malakai and Mom" time. Amen.

Your Heritage

In cleaning up the cellar for the guys to come and install a new boiler, I came across a zippered case that I asked your mom if this was hers (or Aunt Leslie's). She said it contained something she had to return to your 'biological gramma' Dee. It was baby pictures of Greg (this is how I'll refer to the person who made your mom pregnant with you- he doesn't deserve the title of 'dad' in any way, and that's probably the best for all of us at this time). I thought they were cute and could see some of you in them, but mom doesn't want to keep them. I've thought about scanning them into the computer for you when you get older and start asking questions about your heritage, but I'm not sure if that's stepping over boundaries. Your mom's boundaries. We'll see.
 As much as I don't feel he deserves a place in your life, it's where your genes come from. And as a baby, he wasn't the same person he became as an adult. He was still sweet and inocent, I'm sure. I don't want you to know about the awful things he did to your mom until you are an adult (or are old enough to handle it... then again, how old would that be? I'm not sure I'M old enough to handle it and I"m pretty darn old, some would say...LOL - NOT, I'm only 56, my dear!...